Life Advice
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Friend's Pain Comes And Goes, Especially In Parking Lots
DEAR ABBY: My friend "Alma" has a handicapped parking permit. I never asked her why she has it. We regularly go for long walks, and she seems perfectly able-bodied. Alma did share with me once that she got the tag after an accident left her with some intermittent long-term pain. She said most days she doesn't need the accessible parking and ...Read more
Mom Devastated By Daughter's Intended Wedding Plans
DEAR ABBY: My oldest daughter, "Alexa," is breaking my heart. She's engaged to a nice enough man she's been with for five years, but she has cast aside every single wedding tradition that's important to us.
Alexa won't wear an engagement ring because diamonds are "ugly" and not politically correct. She has refused to have either an engagement ...Read more
Doorbell Camera Captures Parents Speaking About Daughter
DEAR ABBY: We were recorded on video and audio on our daughter's porch, thinking we were talking to each other privately. We were discussing how hurt we were that she didn't want to spend time with us on our 50th wedding anniversary, shortly after she and her husband moved out of state. They could easily have driven to a new RV park close to our...Read more
Second Marriage Deteriorates As Reality Becomes Clearer
DEAR ABBY: I'm 58 and five years into my second marriage. We lived together a little over a year before getting married. I spent seven years as a caregiver for my parents before marrying my current husband.
We moved to Kentucky from Florida because his mom needed us close, but since the move, he has become someone I hardly know. We finally got ...Read more
Ex-Wife Still Using 'Kids' To Hurt Their Father
DEAR ABBY: My daughter was living in my garage apartment but then got married and moved away. Her sister is in law school in another state, and her brother is even farther away in graduate school. I moved close enough to see them when they come to visit their hometown and their mother.
My ex-wife is flying the two out-of-state ones in for a ...Read more
Grandmother Thinks Toddler Should Be More Responsible
DEAR ABBY: I have a 16-month-old who has recently learned to walk. My mom was watching him one day a week while I worked part-time, but she ultimately decided it was too much stress on her back and said she could no longer lift him. Lately, she has been telling me I need to "train" him to do certain things in order for her to watch him without ...Read more
Daughter Turns 18 And Sets Off Down An Alarming Path
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I finally got custody of his daughter "Amelia" 15 days before her 16th birthday. She came to us with home-schooling and little socialization. Now she's 18, and we've gotten her on track to graduate, but she has completely changed. She plans to move in with her boyfriend and is skipping school.
My husband feels we can't...Read more
Harsh Words Intensify Spat Involving In-Laws
DEAR ABBY: My daughter-in-law is very opinionated. At times, we get along. But, in the past, she has upset me by accusing me of not doing the right thing. She and my son have two young children together and full custody of his son from another mother.
I complimented my grandson on looking after his little sister at her birthday party and was ...Read more
Expectant Mom Wants Her Sex Offender Father Out Of The Picture
DEAR ABBY: My dad is a registered sex offender who has done time for his crimes against children. My mother has continued to have contact with him and has repeatedly chosen him over her own children. She doesn't respect our wishes, and we believe she gives him information about our lives and our images.
With a child on the way, I cannot ...Read more
Elderly Couple's Only Child Begins A Life Without Them
DEAR ABBY: I am a single man with no siblings. My elderly father passed away eight months ago. My mother is now in hospice with a life expectancy of weeks to months. My parents have lived long and productive lives, and I'm proud of both of them. We have always been very close. Since their terminal illnesses, I have managed to function fairly ...Read more
Woman About To Share News Of Her Surprise Pregnancy
DEAR ABBY: My partner and I have been together more than five years now. He has two adult children. I learned two days ago that I am pregnant. At 43 years old, I didn't think a child was in my future. But now that I'm pregnant, I couldn't be happier. I'm cautiously excited because I am unsure what my partner's reaction is going to be. I haven't ...Read more
Grown Godchildren No Longer Communicate As Often
DEAR ABBY: My godchildren and I were always very close. They consider me literally their second mom. Until now, we were blessed with great communication. The oldest always sent me a warm Mother's Day greeting and called me often.
About a year ago, she started ignoring all of my overtures. Her younger sister, who is also grown with children, ...Read more
Woman Doesn't Want To Pay Unemployed Sister's Rent
DEAR ABBY: At 63, I am the youngest sister of four siblings. We grew up in the turmoil of Dad's alcoholism and hoarding, as well as physical and emotional abuse from both our parents.
One of my sisters, "June," was sexually assaulted by my brother. She's 71 now and hasn't worked since she was in her early 30s. She supports herself on Social ...Read more
Comedian Brothers' Feud Is No Laughing Matter
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are the parents of three grown sons. Our middle son ("Kurt," age 29) has been in conflict with his younger brother ("Jared," age 26) for more than a year. Kurt started doing stand-up comedy but still works a day job to pay his bills. Jared now has also started doing comedy. We suspect the disagreement started well ...Read more
Husband's Retirement Is Off To A Rocky Start
DEAR ABBY: My husband retired three weeks ago, and he has been driving me crazy ever since. I'm a night owl, and he's known it since we met 10 years ago. Today, he told me he'd be playing golf with an old friend tomorrow at 8:30 a.m. at a course 45 minutes away and needed to get up at 6 a.m.
I asked if he could be extra quiet in the morning and...Read more
Girlfriend Tires Of Boorish Man's Wandering Eye
DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. Before me, he was known for sleeping around. He has never cheated on me that I am aware of, but when we go to social gatherings (or just out), he flirts with other women. If there is another woman in the room, he keeps his eyes on her like I can't see it happening.
When I told him ...Read more
Best Friend Shares A Rumor That's Making The Rounds
DEAR ABBY: My best friend of 45 years and I are 65. She has been married since 1985; I have been divorced for many years. She recently shocked me by claiming that a mutual friend told her I have been having an affair with a married acquaintance! This is false, but I now wonder whether she said it because she suspects it herself.
When I got ...Read more
Student Navigates Stressful Time At School And At Home
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 23-year-old college student struggling to find direction in life. I've been trying to find a part-time job and an internship, but I have had no success. This leaves me increasingly anxious, especially as my parents, who currently help me with tuition and rent, are getting older and can't continue working much longer.
Adding to ...Read more
Father Makes It His Job To Find Daughter A Husband
DEAR ABBY: I recently turned 30, and I find myself in kind of a "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" situation, specifically the scene where Toula's father has invited several Greek men to dinner to try to persuade her to marry one of them. I told my father I am not interested in dating, but he and his boss keep telling me about single Romanian men in ...Read more
Relationship Shares Distinct Similarity With The Last One
DEAR ABBY: I've been divorced for 13 years and have been dating "Paul" for the last five years. Paul is kind, helps with things around the house and loves my friends and family. We share many common interests and enjoy being together. We are now considering moving to the next step: marriage. We already live together.
The problem is that Paul is...Read more